psychology of human interaction

I wrote this excerpt in a journal and found it recently, from Sennett's "The Impact of Industrial Capitalism on Public Life"

"The belief that secrecy is necessary when people are fully interacting gives the key to a second of the barometers of psychic distress in the society: the desire to withdraw from feeling in order not to show one's feelings involuntarily to others.

But precisely this fearful withdrawal from expression puts more pressure on others to get closer to you to know what you feel, what you want, what you know.

Flight and the seed of compulsive intimacy are absolutely joined: the sheer expression of an emotion, any emotion, becomes ever more important as so much work becomes necessary to penetrate another's defenses to the point where he is willing to interact."